ENTP and ISFJ relationships do not generate a lot of fanfare. For most people, it’s a tricky combination. It either works fantastically well or is a horrendous disaster.
This article will consider if an ENTP and ISFJ pairing can really work.
Opposites Certainly Attract in the MBTI
In the MBTI, opposites certainly attract at least in the short term. It is also very stereotypical to assume that people might get along simply because they share some traits.
For the ENTP and ISFJ, here are some reasons why they might be initially attracted to each other.
Why the ENTP Will Be Attracted to the ISFJ
1. Their Kind Nature and Warmth
ISFJs are the guardians of the MBTI. They are great nurturers. This warmth and their kind-hearted nature are very appealing to ENTPs.
ENTPs will find a lot of comfort in the ISFJs as their demeanor is completely different from theirs. Talking about differences…
2. Their Differences
The ISFJ and ENTP are the same but in reverse. Their cognitive functions are a clear indication of their differences. ENTP’s cognitive function is Ne, Ti, Fe, Si while ISFJ leads with Si, Fe, Ti, and Ne.
The implication is that the ENTP sees qualities that they struggle with in the ISFJ and vice versa. This will endear them to the ISFJ.
ISFJs appear calm, stable, and friendly. ENTP’s life is a rollercoaster. They are also building a new project, getting into a new industry/career, or learning something new.
So, the ENTP will find the calm and stability offered by the ISFJ very refreshing. It’ll be perfect.
4. Right Blend of Introversion and Extroversion
Most ISFJs are extroverted introverts. This means they have the right blend of introversion and extroversion.
ENTPs are introverted extroverts. When both types meet, there’s little chance of being drained by the other.
Why the ISFJ Will Be Attracted to the ENTP
1. Entrepreneurial Nature
ENTPs usually excel as being entrepreneurs or self-employed. ISFJs will love the adventurous spirit they have when running a business.
This is something they might struggle with themselves. So, to see someone do it freely will intrigue them.
2. Their Free Spirit
ENTPs are adventurers and free spirits. This is heightened by their perceiving function. This makes them very flexible and cheerful.
This trait is very contagious. People usually feel at ease and drawn to the ENTP. The ISFJ will be no different.
ENTP is soaked in undiluted charisma. This is mostly because of their extroverted intuition (Ne). They have a truckload of ideas and are very persuasive.
So, when the ENTP talks or expresses themselves, all you see is confidence and charisma. ISFJ sees this and absolutely loves it.
ENTPs are bold and assertive. They need to be since they are always challenging the norms and traditional ways of doing things.
ISFJs are more accepting of the norms and traditions even when they don’t agree with them. So, they find ENTP’s boldness and opinionated nature refreshing.
Strengths of the ENTP and ISFJ Relationship
1. One Shared Love Language
The ENTP and ISFJ both have quality time among their top love languages. While this is true, quality time might also mean different things to both parties.
However, the fact that they both have quality time is a good starting point. It gives them a foundation to deal with other love languages that might be different.
2. Perfect Complements
ENTPs and ISFJs are perfect complements of each other. As earlier stated, they have the same cognitive functions but in reverse. This means the ISFJ’s strengths are the ENTP’s flaws and vice versa.
So, they perfectly complement each other. When both types are fully matured, their partnership would seem perfect and without weaknesses.
That’s great if you ask me.
3. An Opportunity to Grow and Learn
This follows the last point. Because they are perfect complements, it allows them to both grow and learn. Their flaws become reduced and they become better people.
For example, the ENTP can learn to be more patient and sensitive. On the other hand, the ISFJ can learn to step out of their comfort zone and better express themselves.
4. Perfect Blend of Energy/Roles
ENTPs are extroverts while ISFJs are introverts. So, ENTPs will naturally be the conversation drivers in the relationship. This also applies to public events.
The ISFJ can save their social batteries longer. ISFJs are great listeners when mature. Their listening skills are crucial in the relationship.
5. Shared Fe in Similar Positions
Another strength of this relationship is their shared interest in others. This is down to the presence of Fe in both types. ISFJs have a stronger Fe. So, their concern for others will be naturally higher.
These shared interests can strengthen their relationship.
6. Good Cop/Bad Cop
The good cop, bad cop vibes are truly on with the ENTP and ISFJ. To many onlookers, the ENTP will be the bad cop because of their ability to say no and be blunt.
The ISFJ, on the other hand, will be seen as the good cop that is kind and willing to help. This creates a balancing act in the relationship.
Weaknesses of the ENTP and ISFJ Relationship
1. Tradition vs Innovation
The weaknesses of this relationship lie at the very core. The ENTP is a driver of innovation. They do not settle for norms and traditions regardless of societal pressure.
They like trying out new things and ideas. ISFJs are the guardians of culture and traditions. Because they lead with Si, stepping away from this belief is usually difficult.
Because of how stubborn both types can be, this can cause a strain in the relationship. The ENTP will think the ISFJ is old-fashioned and rigid. The ISFJ will think the ENTP is weird and dangerous.
There will be no compromises.
2. Communication Style
ENTPs are straight talkers. They say exactly what is on their minds. For them, it’s all or nothing. ISFJs are not straight talkers. They find it difficult to speak bluntly and try to reduce the impact of their words.
They are also not big fans of constructive criticism or feedback. When they are criticized, they tend to take it as a personal attack.
As you have already guessed, this can lead to real issues. In a relationship, the ENTP will point out the ISFJ’s weaknesses as a way to grow. The ISFJ will feel hurt and misread as a personal attack.
Both parties will drag their foot and never address the problem.
3. Security Seeking vs Adventurous
ISFJs want to be secure. They prefer to do familiar things. New things or activities can be very alarming to them. This is especially true of the ISFJ 6w5.
ENTPs are different. They love new adventures. They are willing to experiment with new experiences. This is especially true of ENTP 7w8s.
This can become a problem. ENTPs might want to try new things in their romantic and sexual life. The ISFJ might not be too keen. The ENTP will slowly get frustrated while the ISFJ will keep dragging their foot.
Sooner or later, these conflicts can take a toll on the relationship.
4. Organization vs Chaos
ISFJ leads with the judging function while the ENTP leads with the perceiving function. Thus, the ISFJ prefers to work with a plan. The only exception here will be the ISFJ type 9 who can be very indecisive.
ENTPs, on the other hand, prefer to keep their options open. This function can also affect their neatness or tidiness.
The ISFJ might demand that the ENTP become more organized. The ENTP might strongly believe in their disorganized organization.
This can become a disaster.
5. Communication itself
Finally, communication can become very difficult in this relationship. ENTPs are intuitive. This means they love discussing abstract concepts.
ISFJs are sensors. They are more inclined to live in the moment. Thus, ENTPs might want to make future plans well in advance. The ISFJ will ignore these plans and stay in the present.
This will frustrate the ENTP and drive a wedge between both types. ENTPs might also find normal discussions draining as the ISFJ will have little interest in abstract or theoretical conversations.
They might also find the ISFJ boring conversationalists as they only focus on the present.
How to Make The ISFJ and ENTP Relationship Work
The Need for Compromises
Both types need to make compromises. Dragging your foot is the fastest way to kill your relationship.
So, where possible, yearn to see how your actions affect your partner. If it does not affect your core values, seek ways to improve the relationship.
Avoiding Trying to Change Your Partner
Your partner can never have your values. This is especially true about the ENTP and ISFJ relationship.
So, instead of making hurtful remarks and trying to change your partner, try to accept them. If you cannot accept them for who they are, you’re in the wrong relationship.
Focus on Your Strengths
Focusing on your strengths allows you to see the good sides of your relationship. Most times, relationships do not really change. People just focus a lot on the bad aspects.
So, focus on your strengths and what you have gained from the relationship.
Understand the Potential of Your Relationship
Finally, understand that your relationship can be a force to be reckoned with. In Socionics, the ISFJ and ENTP relationship is considered a dual relationship (which is the most compatible).
Plus, the success of a relationship is not only determined by the MBTI. Enneagram types and attachment styles are other factors that play significant roles.