ISFJs are sweethearts. I have many ISFJs in my life, and I adore them. However, one ISFJ subtype that intrigues me is the ISFJ 3w4.
This article discusses the ISFJ 3w4 and what you can expect from them.
Who is the ISFJ 3w4?
ISFJ 3w4s are ambitious people with a touch of style. They somehow managed to combine their sweet nature with ambition remarkably well. This personality type is also quite stylish and values their independence. They are a well-polished variant of the ISFJ with everything in their locker.
The presence of their wing makes them more artistic and creative. This, combined with their goal-oriented nature, makes them a force to be reckoned with. Type 3 is not a common type for ISFJs. However, it’s understandable, as type 3 is usually part of their disintegration and integration process.
ISFJ 3w4 is slightly more likely to be assertive than turbulent.
What is the Core Desire of the ISFJ 3w4?
The core desire of the ISFJ 3w4 is to be successful and to be seen as successful. To achieve this, they put their extroverted feeling (Fe) and introverted sensing (Si) functions to devastating effect.
What is the Core Fear of the ISFJ 3w4?
The core fear of the ISFJ 3w4 is to be seen as a failure or be a failure. In other words, success is only success when it is recognized and acknowledged by others.
How the 3w4 Changes the Natural Tendencies of the ISFJ
1. More Assertive
ISFJs are introverts. Thanks to their Fe, they are also very tactful. This ISFJ is different. While ISFJ 3w4s are tactful, they are also assertive when they desire something.
This is usually geared towards their success. Their assertiveness can also take center stage when they are competing with others.
2. More Confident
This follows the last point. Their assertiveness will make others perceive them as more confident. While this is true, they also maintain their sensitivity.
This means that they often have the ability to reach others with their confidence, which is laced with emotions. This makes them one of the best in negotiations and persuasive situations.
The presence of Si also means they remember tiny details of events and people’s lives. They know just the right buttons to push.
3. More Charming
This follows the last point. Confidence breeds charm. People are drawn to them because of their confidence. Their extroverted intuition (Ne), which is usually least enhanced in typical ISFJ, is much more developed.
Thus, ISFJ 3w4s are often better at expressing themselves. For this reason, they are often mistyped as ESFJs or ENFJs.
4. More Extroverted
ISFJs are extroverted introverts. This means that while they prefer to recharge in their alone time, they have longer social batteries. ISFJ 3w4 is even more extroverted. People usually find it difficult to believe they are extroverts. However, this might change if their wing is strong.
While this is true, ISFJ 3w2 is still significantly more extroverted.
5. Slightly More Creative
ISFJs are creative people, in a sense. For example, they are great with their hands and can be good at crafts. However, ISFJ 3w4s take it to another level. They are usually good with their hands and also creative in other ways.
For example, ISFJ 3w4s make good musicians, decorators, or tailors. They can also be good writers, entertainers, or graphic designers.
The world is at their feet.
6. More Adaptable
ISFJs are judgers, which means they prefer to plan their routine. Combine this with the Si function, and you get someone who’s dogmatic about their ideals and values. This often clashes with the Fe’s need for group harmony.
ISFJ 3w4s are slightly different. The combination of Fe plus type 3 just blows these values out of the water. While they still exist, ISFJ 3w4s will be more adaptable and flexible with others.
As you are probably aware, type 3 tries to be successful through networking. The only way ISFJ 3w4s can achieve this is by being flexible. So, flexible they are.
New Weaknesses of the ISFJ 3w4
1. Chronic People-Pleasing Tendencies
ISFJ 3w4s cannot escape people-pleasing. Fe is interested in group harmony, and type 3s are interested in progressing through interactions with people.
Thus, ISFJ 3w4s will find it difficult to say no. Healthy boundaries will be difficult to maintain. Their only hope will be their wing, which values its independence. In other words, ISFJ 3w4s will have a tipping point at which they will assert themselves.
This tipping point will depend on the strength of their wing.
2. Tendency to Neglect their Opinions
ISFJ 3w4s have strong values, ideas, and opinions. However, their need to be tactful might make them swallow these opinions.
The cons can be disastrous. ISFJ 3w4s might build resentment toward others and feel stepped on and ignored. While they are adept at speaking out for their success, they will struggle to express their displeasure to those whom they deem crucial to their success.
3. The Need for External Validation
Like most type 3s, ISFJ 3w4s want recognition for their work and success. If this doesn’t come, it can have a negative impact on their self-esteem. ISFJ 3w4s might see themselves as failure or not value their achievements.
They need to realize that achievements should be for oneself and not for recognition. That is easier said than done.
4. Competitive Streak
Type 3s are big on success, which usually makes them super competitive. To them, second place is failure. Sometimes, their competitiveness can go a tad too far. For example, they can turn a pleasant gathering into something else because of their competitive streak.
This can lead to embarrassment and even a bad reputation.
ISFJ 3w4 in Love/Compatibility
Are you in love or married to an ISFJ 3w4? Here are some things you should know.
1. Compatibility
The ESTP is the ISFJ’s natural partner in the MBTI, and in Socioonics, it’s the ENTP. Type 3 is compatible with types 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, and 9.
Thus, ISFJ 3w4s have many options. While this is true, any two mature people can make a relationship work.
2. Love Languages
This refers to the way people prefer to give and receive love. ISFJ 3w4s usually have words of affirmation and quality time among their top 3 love languages.
If you are dating an ISFJ 3w4, you cannot go wrong by spending time with them. However, what is regarded as quality time varies, so you should discuss this with your ISFJ 3w4 to find out what they consider quality time.
3. Help Them Set Boundaries
As mentioned earlier, ISFJ 3w4 struggles to set boundaries. If you’re dating an ISFJ 3w4, this is where you come in. Protecting them from digging themselves into a hole is important. It allows them to be themselves and enjoy life better.
Just make sure you don’t make them seem stupid in the process. If you are also not great at setting boundaries, you should try to work on yourself. This article might help.
4. Love Them For Themselves
ISFJ 3w4 go through life thinking without success, no one will love them. If you’re dating an ISFJ 3w4, it’s your job to prove them wrong. Love them for themselves. You can prove this by staying put when they suffer disappointments.
They’ll love you even more.
ISFJ 3w4 in the Workplace
ISFJs want a structured workplace that focuses on helping others. They usually work well when they can see tangible results for their efforts. ISFJ 3w4s are the same, just a lot more ambitious.
They tend to prefer careers that allow them to climb up the ladder. While this is true, ISFJ 3w4 prefers to work in an establishment rather than start their own business.
Ensure their role is challenging and rewarding to get the best out of the ISFJ 3w4.
Best Careers for the ISFJ 3w4
- Writer
- Chef
- Doctor
- Graphic designer
- Executive
- Director
- Musician
- Tailor
- Nurse
- Pharmacist
- Dentist
- Counselor
- Arbitrator
- Diplomat
Worst Careers for the ISFJ 3w4
- Judge
- Secretary
- Waitress
- Team member (fast food)
Famous People/Fictional/ Anime Characters that Might Be ISFJ 3w4
- Beyoncé
- Kim Woojin
- Manny Pacquiao
- Harry Maguire
- Ju Jingyi
- Angela Aguilar
- Yuuki Mishima (Persona 5)
- Serena (Pokémon X and Y)
- My name is Jeff(Sherlock)
- Jolin Tsai
- José José
- Paul George
- Phil Health
